Protection from Pornography week has started. In protest, I’m watching a little bit of porn every day and writing about it. Please feel free to join me by watching your own porn and writing about it either on your own blog or in our comments section.

Today I decided to start with a classic - Behind the Green Door. This film from the early days of feature length porn is a great example of what the classics have to offer. I decided to skip the beginning “plot” related scenes and skip right to the good stuff. A woman is on a stage in front of a large audience with a group a women getting her all worked up. Then, a man comes out from behind the green door and they begin to fuck. The audience, inspired by what’s on stage, begin their own orgy of sorts.

That’s where Behind the Green Door blows most other films away. The people in the audience are old, young, fat, thin, black, white and everything else. They are the most diverse crowd of people I’ve ever seen in a film - and they’re all naked and having sex with each other. It’s incredibly hot. Watching real people with real bodies fuck is always hotter to me than cookie-cutter blond girls who are so skinny that I want to feed them, not fuck them.

I highly recommend Behind the Green Door for an early taste of good porn. Marilyn Chambers, the hot hot hot star of this film made a comeback in another fantastic film called Edge Play. In it, she pays homage to Behind the Green Door.

Did you know October is Family Sex Education Month? If you ever pay attention to statistics, you’ll occasionally read things like “70% of all teens have engaged in oral sex by the time they’re nineteen.”  I was once a sexually active teen (ok, that was back in the Seventies), so this doesn’t come as much of a surprise. But in the US, our inability to institute any kind of useful sex education prompted me to write a piece called the Teen Sexual Bill of Rights for my book, The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. It was born out of my own experience as a promiscuous Catholic girl who could have used a great web site, a sex book, or even a patient and wise adult. So I’m excerpting some of it here in the spirit of the CSNY song “teach your children well!” Parents, start young, so when your kids do become sexually active teens and young adults, they’ll be responsible, healthy, and happy. (And if you are curious, that is me, with my future teen, above.)

1. Teens have the right to appreciate their own and each other’s bodies
   Both boys and girls deserve access to information about sexual anatomy, along with accurate visual representations. Without it, kids grow up thinking their genitals are misshapen, deformed, or just plain ugly. Genital cosmetic surgery would go away because we’d all be happy with what we were born with!
2. Teens have the right to know how things work
   Teaching girls and boys about the clitoris as a source of pleasure would be right at the top of this anatomy lesson. Learning about your own sexual response through masturbation would become a rite of passage, not a source of embarrassment.
3. Teens have the right to know that sex is about pleasure
   The bulk of what kids learn is about unwanted touch, danger, and disease. Let’s take a more balanced approach, teaching teens about sexual responsibility while also explaining that sexual desire and passion are natural and healthy.
4. Teens have the right to know that sex is more than intercourse
   Anyone who has had an “‘is that all?” moment after fucking, or who’s explored the pleasure potential of all their erogenous zones knows there’s a whole lot more to sex than intercourse.
5. Teens have the right to realistic expectations
   You know this one—two people with perfect bodies fall madly in love and have fantastic simultaneous multiple orgasms—all without ever mussing their hair. That’s how it is in the movies, that’s what advertising would have us believe (sexy babes selling cars), and that’s definitely what porn magazines promote. But teens should also know that sex is messy, awkward, embarrassing, sometimes painful, and…that you can have great sex no matter what you look like!
6. Teens have the right to make responsible choices
   What you don’t know can hurt you, and teens who are not given full access to the tools and information to make their own decisions about sexual health are being abandoned to a game of  roulette by the very adults who are hoping to “protect” them. Give them the info so they can be prepared! You can use a site like Planned Parenthood to help you learn how to talk to kids, or steer them to a great teen site like Scarleteen or Sex, Etc.
7. Teens have the right to sexual equality
   This double standard just won’t go away: promiscuous boys are admired by their peers, promiscuous girls are seen as slutty. Boys should play the field, girls should wait till they are married. Let’s foster self esteem in girls from an early age, and let’s teach both sexes how to respect their partners.
8. Teens have the right to sexual diversity
   High schools are notoriously unforgiving places to be “differerent” and teens who want to explore same sex intimacies can be ostracized. Let’s try this approach: It doesn’t matter who you love, just that you love and are well-loved in return. Thanks to the web, gay teens can find more community in places like Planet Out Teen.
9. Teens have the right to consent
   Every person deserves freedom from sexual abuse and coercion. If we raise our kids with self-respect, encourage critical thinking, and provide accurate sex information, they’ll be less vulnerable to sexual coercion, whether from a stranger, a family member or a date. Take care of those who have been the victims of sexual assault, and consider a gift of The Survivor’s Guide to Sex.
10. Teens have the right to resources
    Even adults with the best intentions may not get the opportunity to talk to their own kids, after all parents are sometimes the last people kids want to talk to about sex. So make books, web sites, or kindly aunts or uncles available to answer your kids’ questions!

Here are some great resources

Great WEb sites for teens

Scarleteen

Sex, etc.

Teenwire

Coalition for Positive Sexuality

Resources for Parents

Talking to teen about sex

Planned Parenthood tips on talking to kids about sex

Sex Ed as It Should Be

Good books

Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (my book–you can read a longer version of the rights above)

It’s Perfectly Normal cartoon illustrated book for pre-teens

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives in the tradition of Our Bodies, Ourselves

Sometimes in this job it feels like everything I love is under attack. State legislators are trying to ban sales of sex toys and the religious right is steadily chipping away at my right to reproductive choices. Thank goodness they legalized sodomy!

Another front on which the “moral majority” takes the high ground is pornography. Starting next week, they will launch Protection from Pornography Week - devoted to judging those of us who enjoy watching naked people have sex.

The organizations behind this week go so far as to say that a picture of a woman in a swimsuit or a lingerie catalog can cause pornography addition within “a week”. I’m not kidding. See one Victoria’s Secret ad on Monday and you’ll be holding the remote in one hand and a box of tissues in the other by Saturday - a hopeless case.

Now, I understand the arguments that people make against pornography. I’ve turned off or fast-forwarded movies that I just couldn’t watch. I’ve also drooled over some of my favorite scenes, learned new tricks, and watched my fantasies play out on the screen. That’s the thing about porn - there might be quite a bit of crap out there, but there’s a fair amount of really good work as well - you just have to know how to find it.

Before I started working at Babeland, I hadn’t seen a lot of porn. That all changed through Babeland’s rentals program. I learned there’s a lot of porn out there that is specifically trying not to be like your run-of-the-mill porn. It’s trying to be special - and boy is it ever. There’s women-made porn, indie porn, queer porn, and much more. I watched everything I could get my hands on so that when people came in looking for something new and different than what they could get at the 24 hour place in Times Square, I could help them.

So, in honor of Protection from Pornography Week, I’m going to watch at least one porn clip every day next week. It might not be a whole movie - but I’ll watch a little bit of porn each day and review it here on the blog. No, I’m not addicted. I just think it’s possible to have a healthy relationship with sex on film and I’m tired of people trying to tell me what should and shouldn’t turn me on.

Want to join me? Post a comment and tell me what porn you’re watching in honor of Protection from Pornography Week. If you need some ideas, check out our fantastic porn collection or stop into one of our stores to rent or buy.