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Archive for September 4th, 2007

Labor Day - but not for sex workers?

Tuesday, September 4th, 2007

Since yesterday was Labor Day, I wanted to offer up some posts by and about sex workers, who are certainly a class of laborer we don’t often see celebrated, let alone given their due.

Confessions of a College Callgirl has a new, much-linked post called “The Price” that I highly recommend reading. She has a very intelligent, interesting, and insightful blog about what her career in sex work has been like, but this latest post, after being picked up on Boing Boing, has garnered close to 200 comments, many along the lines of:

Nobody cares what a whore has to say about stuff. Your job is to take cock and STFU. You are a communal cum dumpster and when we want your opinion we’ll give it to you.

I think it’s sad and yet fascinating that as much social progress has been made toward equality amongst people, sex workers are still considered okay to treat as subhuman.

Other blogs well worth checking out:

Mistress Matisse, professional dominatrix and columnist for Seattle’s The Stranger

Writing the Whip, Diary of a Dominatrix

We Could Be Naked, by Alix who does sexy interviews and acts/poses for porn

Spanking model Adele Haze

Burlesque performer, event producer, and all-around busy girl Cherry Bomb

Earlier this year, Sexerati posted a four-part series about “The Pink Ghetto,” which I would argue that even people like me, erotic writers, as well as those who sell sex toys, and anyone whose job relates to people’s sex lives, is a part of. Sex seems to be a topic that people generally want to hear more of but also look down upon. There’s this idea that sex and commerce should never mix, whether explicitly such as in prostitution, or more subtly; people shouldn’t “need” aids to help them or classes or anything to teach them.

And yet sex is probably one area where we could all use a hell of a lot more openness, honesty, and education than we get in school or from our peers. That’s not to say we all need to be studying it or even doing it on any kind of schedule. But all of us have sexual questions at times (I have them quite a bit, actually), and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with seeking information, help, community or companionship.

I also highly recommend $pread magazine, which looks at issues of interest to and written by sex workers and is always insightful and offers up issues and takes on the industry I don’t read about elsewhere (like how the $2 bill lives on as strip club currency).

They’re looking for sex workers to take pro and con sides of this issue:

“Is it a good idea to carry a weapon with you to sessions, just in case?”

See their site for more information.

Sugasm 95

Tuesday, September 4th, 2007

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #96? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Cuffed
“She could see that he had something concealed in his other hand, but couldn’t quite tell whether it would be an instrument of torture or pleasure.”

Lunch Hour
“He’s very good, but I notice the almost imperceptible start as he notices what’s going on.”

About size
“But if we’re going to start talking about penis size, then it is only fair to talk about vagina size.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
“Men on a Mission” Calendar 2008

Editor’s Choice
The S Spot Sexy Short Story Competition!

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

BDSM & Fetish
Abstract Question
Crimson Pain
Etched with Love (Anniversary pt 1)
Half-Nekkid in America
Happy HNT - Rope bondage paddling
His Cane, His Gown, His Mortarboard
Master and Slave
On becoming a small letter person
Pagan preaches…
Sex and Money
Spankings and Cupcakes….
Want To Learn How To Do Figging?

Sex Humor
Mystery Sex Toys

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Ace and Idiot
The beauty stops by
Brothers friend..what a night to remember.
Drenched
Finger Fucking Friday
Grey
Holding Pattern
MFF
No reservations, part 3
Welcome back….

NSFW Pics & Videos
Half-Nekkid Fetishist
Lilya in polka dots
Perla | Voluptueux (errotica archives)
Petter Hegre’s Fantasy Island
Ron Harris’s Latest Erotic Photo and Video

Sex Work
Do I Kiss & Tell? (Or, Why Sex Pros Make Better Bloggers)
Sex Work And Religion: Sacred Pussy, Controlled Womb

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The Brick Wall Statement
Being out vs Being out there
MisQuote The Craig, Evermore
More On “Hiding in Plain Sight”
The Scientific Desires

Sex News & Reviews
Ivy Intimate Touch Palm Massager Review
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