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Nerve Looking for Sexually Frustrated Women for Documentary
Nerve is looking for women who have trouble having orgasms to be in a documentary. Nerve will pay for the women to visit sex therapists and experts on the G-spot, orgasm, Tantra and sex toys (maybe they will come to Babeland!) and they will be taped during this process. You must live in the NYC area. Please see their Craigslist ad for more information.
I think it’s amazing that Nerve wants to help out a couple of women who have trouble orgasming. What is hard about this, though, is that everyone is different so what works for one woman may not work for another. It will still be very interesting to see what all of the experts recommend. It will make a good list of things for others to try.
I can guess that there are some themes that will probably come out for both women during the filming:
1. Lack of information about their bodies
2. Misinformation or baggage from family, teachers, friends or partners
3. General discomfort with one’s body
4. Difficulty letting the focus and attention be concentrated on them
These are some of the common struggles that women with problems orgasming have. In fact, we all have them to some degree or another. Even though I’ve worked at Babeland for over three years, I can still be uncomfortable with my body sometimes or have trouble relaxing enough and getting out of my head and letting things roll.
What do you do when you’re feeling sexually frustrated?
November 10th, 2007 at 3:19 pm
I have a difficult time sometimes reaching orgasm with a partner. I agree that not only does it vary from woman to woman - but it varies within me! There are times my body is incredibly responsive - I get wet easily and every touch brings me closer. But there are other times that - even though I know I want it - I just can’t get in the right mindset. For me, I’ve realized there are several factors:
Last time I had an orgasm (sometimes the build up is just so great, so if I haven’t had one in awhile, it is easier for me to achieve it)
Porn - or dirty talk - something that helps me get in a randy mood!
Combined touching - I cum most easily from clitoral stimulation - but it amazes me what a difference it makes adding G-spot stimulation and nipple stimulation. Sometimes I have my boyfriend just touch me all over while I use my vibrator directly on my clit. That seems to work well.
Am I stressed? Sometimes I think a little stress actually gets me in the mood - but too much stress and I can’t cum.
Am I generally healthy? Sober? 1-2 glasses of wine and I’m relaxed - but more than that and I have a hard time cumming. Also, I notice that when I’m exercising more I have a higher sex drive and an easier time climaxing.
Great topic - there is SO much misinformation out there about what is “normal” for women. I’ve never had an orgasm without clitoral stimulation - but I’ve had lots of orgasms. I’ve accepted this and love when my partner understands this and enjoys exploring different ways to get me off.
November 16th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
i like that nerve is doing this documentary but i think that their definition of ’sexually frustrated’ is off base. women’s sexuality is broader than orgasm and just because a woman doesn’t–or can’t–orgasm regularly doesn’t mean that she doesn’t also enjoy sex. similarly, the ability to regularly orgasm does not preclude the possibility of being sexually frustrated for other reasons. women can experience the equivalent of premature ejaculation and, in that case, are having orgasms but might not be happy with them.
i don’t like the idea that the orgasm is the ultimate goal for women’s sexuality and that once we’ve reached it, everyone (particularly men) is off the hook for providing pleasure. orgasm is not the be all, end all of fucking a woman.