It’s the time of year for making resolutions. Most of us probably decide we want to exercise more or start flossing regularly. This year, I’m going to throw out the idea of making a sex resolution.

All too often we let our sex lives get habitual. Maybe there are things we want to try but we don’t know how to speak up. Or maybe there was something we once experienced and would really like to do again. Or maybe, we just need to give ourselves the permission: to explore, to laugh, to be nervous, etc. This is not always easy but almost always improves things. It can make a stagnant sex life full of new experiences. Or, it can take an already awesome sex life and add in a new flavor.

My sex resolution is to use my sex toys more. I know, I know - I work at Babeland. You’d think I would use them all the time, but I don’t. Somehow, in the moment, I forget to open that drawer. But this year I’m not going to forget about them - I bought them for a reason, after all.

What are your sex resolutions? Please share them in the comments. Some ideas to get you started:

• Try anal play for the first time
• Use a sex toy with a partner
• Focus less on having an orgasm and more on having fun
• Watch porn with someone else (or watch porn for the first time ever)
• Write an erotic story
• Have one long conversation with a partner about your sex lives