From BJs to Sexy Mamas, this week is proving itself to be one of my favorites in the blog world.  I’ve recently become a huge advocate of giving blow jobs with a condom, especially putting the condom on with my mouth, so you can imagine how happy I was to see such an awesome write up in Babeland’s Blog.

My old friend and former Babeland Sex Educator, Carolyn Riccardi had taught me how to put on a condom with your mouth a year ago in a workshop at our Los Angeles store.  At the time, it seemed like the kind of feat only a pro could do.  How do you keep the condom from slipping and choking you to death?  How do you keep the lube from spilling out?  Filmy latex condoms taste nasty, why would I want to put them in my mouth?  And finally, how the heck am I suppose to go that deep to get the condom on all the way?

I’ll admit, I didn’t like to think about giving head as a way to contract STDs.  I’d rather look at them as simple foreplay, like heavy petting.  It’s no big deal.  But the truth of the matter, is that medically speaking, blow jobs are a big deal.  For someone like myself who flosses regularly and whitens her teeth, why was I not taking precautions to protect my mouth?   Because I was afraid that I would look stupid putting a condom on with my mouth and too embarrassed to practice on my dildos?   Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.  In retrospect, fear is such a silly thing, isn’t it?  Fear of STDs, fear of looking dumb —so silly.  Everyone grows in their sexuality, and this past year, I have grown in giving blow jobs.  Ooh, that sounds like a great excuse to throw a party with a penis cake!

Using the advice of my friend and Seattle store manager, Kelly Arbor, my first step in practicing safe blow jobs was to add a little lube.  Lube can be anything you want when giving head, and as Kelly was quick to point out, even brownie batter can be used (so long as it doesn’t get in or on your cooch and cause a yeast infection!).  Go ahead and lick it like a lollypop, show your cock that you love it – nothing to be afraid of there.  After playing with fun ways to enjoy giving head with a condom, I decided to try it with my favorite lube in the universe: Green Apple Sliquid Swirl. 

Put a little in the tip, get the condom in your mouth between your teeth and lips, give your partner a sexy look, take a deep breath, don’t fear looking stupid, and go for it!  Slip the condom on over the cock. Bring it down, down, down, and don’t be afraid to use your hands.  Now, take a little more Sliquid and drizzle it around the cock like chocolate syrup on top of an ice cream sundae and start licking it all over the condom covered cock.  What’s great about cocks in condoms is that you can be a little rougher than you usually would.  I like to squeeze the cock with my lips and suck a little harder than I normally would.  I also like to gently flicker-lick the head of the penis a little more, since it’s not as ticklishly sensitive with a condom on.

Now that the cock is thoroughly lubed, you’ll be surprised at how fast you can suck it and how deep you can go.  From there, you can go straight into fucking (unless you have brownie and/or cookie batter on it – then you’ll need a new condom!) or keep on with your blow job – you’re ready for anything.  I can’t stress enough how sexy blow jobs with condoms are, both for the cock sucker and the sucked.  I honestly didn’t think it would be, but I can tell you now — giving head with a condom is HOT!  So thank you Carolyn and Kelly for the jubilant instructions, thank you Jennifer for posting such an awesome blog (with pictures — YAY!), and thank you Mamba condoms for being thin, strong, smooth, and an absolute pleasure to suck dick with!

I’m also super excited about Babeland’s Sexy Mama blog event that will be launching tomorrow.  My inspiration for creating a blog event came from sitting in our marketing meetings where we’d discuss the Babeland stores’ Sexy Mama events.  The events sounded like so much fun: sex positive parents getting together for a night of indulgence and sharing, why not apply the same principles to an online format?  We have a few parents here in our Oakland offices who are a true inspiration to me of strength and kindness – I kept thinking how can I celebrate these people this Mother’s Day?  What I decided to do was to creative a web of sex positive parent bloggers who would share different writing themes each week on their own pages.  I was most afraid of was coming up with different themes (I’m not a parent, how do I start a conversation about parenting?) and calling all of these articulate mother writers “Sexy Mamas” when I contacted them.

Sexy Mama – it’s so casual, so gender specific, so completely weird for me to call someone I don’t know but have a deep respect for their blog’s writing.  Assured by my co-worker, Anne Semans, I tried it out, and what I found was that moms love being sexy anything, and what better way to celebrate Mother’s Day than to celebrate her sensuality?

Tomorrow is the first kick-off day of our Sexy Mama blog event.  Each parent involved has been asked to write about sex positive families – what it means and how to model being as sex positive parent.  I can’t wait to see what everyone comes up with.  Feel free to read through all of them and leave your comments.  Participate as much as possible!  What I’d like is to create some conversations through each blog’s comments that cross into different parenting sites, interesting tips, funny videos, and ultimately a place for support and community.  In our Babeland Blog, we’ll have some of our own Babeland parents writing in about their experiences in balancing family and work.  So keep checking in with us through the month of May, and send the link out to any Sexy Mamas or Daddys you know who might like what we’re up to.

Participating Blogs:

Babeland Blog  blog.babeland.com
JanesGuide  www.janesguide.com
Always Aroused Girl  aagblog.com
Urban Gypsy  nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com
Single Mom Seeking   www.singlemomseeking.com/blog

A lot of mothers shop at Babeland. I mean a lot. Sometimes I know because they talk about hiding their toys from their children or taking batteries out of toys to use in vibrators (love it!) and then putting them back. And sometimes they bring their tykes in the store! Not only do the little ones love the toys (the Duckie, in particular) but it helps to normalize sex and pleasure starting at a very young age. Granted, we don’t get many parents bringing their 10 year olds in, but we get a lot of babies and a few teenagers. If my mom had brought me to Babeland for my first vibrator, my adolescence would have been a much better time in my life.

Mother’s day is May 14th and in recognition, the Seattle Babeland is having a Sexy Mama’s Night Out event. A panel of sexy moms are going to discuss everything from desire, to body image to time management and sex. It should be an awesome night.

Working Dad at the Seattle PI seems to agree with me. He’s looking for a topic to write about for Mothers Day and I have to agree with his musing that this would make one fantastic article. What can be more important on Mother’s Day than to make sure mothers are feeling great and having pleasure?

I love a good erotic story. It keeps me company, gives me ideas for dirty talk or even illustrates something I’ve wanted to try and if I’m not too distracted, gives me good tips for when I try it myself. If you want to be inventive and creative in your sex life, erotica is one of the best ways to get new ideas about all sorts of things from setting up a room to positions.

I read erotica in many forms. I own several books including Dirty Girls, Rode Hard, Put Away Wet and Hard Men which are all very different but very hot. Other great books include Taboo, Three Kinds of Asking for It and Best of the Best Women’s Erotica.

I also read a lot of erotica online. There are many great things about doing this. First, the amount and types of erotica are basically as infinite as you have time to search for them. Second, many people who write erotica online have many stories so if you find a style/author you like, it’s easy to stick with them. Third, many people write about their real-life encounters which I find to be incredibly sexy.

Great places to go for online erotica include Fleshbot’s weekly Sex Blog Roundup and weekly Sugasms. I’ve found some other great sites in my travels as well:

Dirty Little Mind is a fantastic erotica site with so many stories, I don’t know if I’ll ever get through them all. I really like Dirty Little Girl’s style and she has a wide variety of stories including some internet chats.

Dirty Filthy Princess is another site I really like. A husband and wife trade posting, sometimes about the same encounter and they have light and fun style.

If you like your erotica mixed with some industry news, then Amanda Earl Erotica is a great place to check out. She has interesting articles and erotica news as well as really hot stories.

Perhaps my favorite erotica site is Always Aroused Girl. Not only does she write fabulous sex toy reviews for Janes Guide, but she creates some killer erotica that is both creative and sexy.