Strap-Ons 101

I’ll be the first to admit that I live in a fairly sheltered world. Life in New York City at a sex toy store leaves me with a not-average kind of knowledge. Occasionally I’m reminded of this and my gut response is to educate, educate, educate. This particular post is a reaction to some comments I overheard a little while ago about strap-ons. Since many people out there have never even seen a strap-on, let alone used one, a post seemed like a good idea. Please feel free to add your own observations about strap-ons in the comments.

What are strap-ons? Strap-ons, or harnesses, or dildo harnesses are just what that last name implies. They are constructions of leather (or vinyl or nylon) that hold a dildo close to your body so that it sits at about the same place as a penis. Strap-ons have a basic shape that you take on and off like underwear but there are variations in color, texture/material, shape and style.

Why do people use strap-ons? People use strap-ons when they want to penetrate someone else or when they want to watch someone lick and suck on their dildo or if they really just like having a dildo between their legs. Harnesses aren’t just about penetration but that’s the way most people think of them.

Who uses strap-ons? Harnesses are generally thought of as something that lesbians use. However, harnesses can be used by anyone and for a lot of different kinds of activities. From double penetration to anal sex to intercourse to blow jobs, strap-ons can be a fun edition to any sex life.
Is using a strap-on fun? Sometimes it seems like the person wearing the strap-on is doing all of the work and getting none of the pleasure. However, using a strap-on can be both fun and pleasurable. For instance, just wearing a harness can be very erotic, whether it’s because you’re in a new or different role in your sex life or because you’re wearing something that your partner is going to get a lot of pleasure from. There are also lots of ways that a harness can stimulate the person who is wearing it – the pressure from the base of the dildo, vibrators or Magic Carpets are all ways of stimulating the wearer or the harness.Where can I watch some really hot strap-on action? There are several porns that have great strap-on scenes in them. I highly recommend Crash Pad, The Bi Apple, Belladonna’s Fucking Girls and Bend Over Boyfriend.

I want to try a strap-on, what should I do? You can buy the Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex. And you can come into Babeland to find the perfect harness for you. Then, take it home and take it for a test run by yourself. Dance, laugh and wiggle in your harness until you feel comfortable in it. Then wear it in front of your partner and go to town!