Shopping Advice 
If you had one question…
I taught a private workshop the other night for a bachelorette party. They were a great group of people – friendly and fun, laughing together and sharing their own stories and tips, which I love. Right before I had to go, I asked if there were any last questions. Everyone turned to the bride and said she should ask any question she wanted. Her maid of honor said “if you could ask any question at all, here is your chance”.
She asked “what’s the one thing, of all of the toys that you brought tonight, that I should walk away with?”
Ah, that question is a Babeland classic. Other forms of the same question include “what’s the best vibrator here?” or “what is your best seller?”
And here is my answer: I don’t know. Not because I don’t know my sex toys, but because I don’t know you. I don’t know your body, I don’t know what kind of pleasure you like, what kind of orgasms you have, how you like to be stimulated. Everyone is different. And by that I really mean that everyone is different. In the three and a half years that I’ve worked here, I’ve heard everything imaginable – enough to know that what works for one person, the next person might hate and the person after them might not even be interested in.
That’s where our job as sex educators is so important when you’re picking out a toy. We’re not just going to point you to the toy we like the best or the most popular toy; we’re going to ask you what you’re looking for, what kind of stimulation you want to have and then we’ll help you find the toy that’s perfect for you. Sometimes this doesn’t happen on the first try. I’ve talked to people who were given the Silk Touch Egg and come back to get something a little less intense like the Hummingbird. I’ve also talked to people who got the Hummingbird and are coming back for something more intense, like the Silk Touch Egg.
Sex toys that are best sellers tend to be that way because they work for a wide variety of people, usually because they have multiple speeds and a range from a very fast buzz to a little more rumbly. That makes it more likely that more people will like them, but they might be using them in totally different ways. That’s why I always recommend getting a toy with a variable speed – that way you can take it home and play and hopefully one (or more) of the speeds will work for you.
If you had one question to ask a Babeland sex educator, what would it be? Ask it in the comments and I’ll answer!
May 20th, 2008 at 7:51 pm
I’ve got a question! And a dumb one, at that. So I saw the ad for the new “We” vibrator in an email from Babeland, and read the description, and…I don’t get it. It says it’s both penetrative (and allows for a partner) and stimulates the clit, but the U shape seems like inserting one end would be impossible without going through the clit or something. I’m so confused! I’m sure I’m just visualizing things wrong somehow, but I think I need an illustration (or a very, very simple explanation) to get it!
May 20th, 2008 at 9:47 pm
That is not a dumb question at all! My disclaimer here is that I haven’t actually seen the We toy yet because we just got it in and I’m not at the store every day. However, my understanding is that it’s shaped like the letter C – but a tighter or more ovally C. One end is fairly thin and that goes inside the vagina. When it’s in there, the toy curves around and the other end touches the clit. It would be sort of like if you were making a duck shaped finger puppet with your hand and inserted your thumb into the vagina and your fingers rested on the clit.
Does that help?
May 21st, 2008 at 1:26 am
How do I get g-spot stimulation to work for me?
When I use vibrators they always go on my clit. But I have also always been able to come from penetration, so I thought the whole g-spot thing would be easy. But my husband and I have been playing around with it, and I don’t get it. The strongest feeling I get is that I have to pee.
May 21st, 2008 at 7:26 am
whatsername: that is a really common feeling that people have when they experiment with g-spot stimulation. The reason is that the “g-spot” is actually a cuff of erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra so when you stimulate it, you feel like you have to pee. If you want to keep exploring your g-spot, I would recommend going to the bathroom first, that way you know that you won’t actually pee so you can keep stimulating your g-spot. For a lot of people, that “i’m going to pee” sensation will go away and it will start to feel really good. For others, it might not in which case, you’ve got some other great ways to have orgasms that you already mentioned.
If you want to read about it a bit more, I’d recommend the “Smart Girls Guide to the G-spot” book, you can also check out our sister website, The G-spot Center (http://www.gspotcenter.com/) to read more about it.
hope that helps! Thanks for your question, it’s a great one.