Between My Sheets is holding a contest for the top Sex Bloggers. Anyone can nominate a blogger (hint!) except for the bloggers themselves, of course.

I’ve already seen some blogs nominated that I love reading: Always Aroused Girl, Audacia Ray, Radical Vixen, and Mistress Matisse to name a few. If you haven’t read their blogs, I highly recommend it. These bloggers are sexy, smart and steamy.

Here are more details on the nomation process. Click here to nominate your favorite sex blogger.

The Top Sex Bloggers of 2008. This list is going to be based on three things:

1. My personal opinion of the site (20%)
2. Your “ratings” (ie, PR, Alexia, etc) and survival rate (ie, how long your blog’s been alive) (20%)
3. Your fans, which I’ll take from who all nominated you below and the comments on your site (60%)

I have some very clear ideas in my mind as to who needs to make the top 100 list, but the Internet is huge and there are a lot of amazing blogs I’ve not read yet. So, I’m counting on you to nominate them!

Here are the official rules:

*Leave your nominations as a comment below. You do not have to use your real name, but you do need to use a valid email address (which I’ll never share). If you don’t feel comfortable commenting, for whatever reason, email me your list instead. Please include a few words about why you’re nominating them! Somewhere in your comment, you MUST INCLUDE A LINK TO THEIR HOMEPAGE, in case I don’t currently read their blog.

I love Heather Corinna. If you haven’t checked out Scarleteen, you must. It’s the best teen-oriented website for sex info that I’ve ever seen and it’s written in a way that is interesting for adults too. On RH Reality Check this week, Heather guest blogged about the prostate, answering a question that I hear all of the time at Babeland and one that I addressed a few weeks ago here.

Q: I’m not gay, but I like my butt and anus played with. Can someone tell me why?

Heather answers:

A guy can be straight and enjoy anal sex great big bunches: if you only desire anal play with men, then we’re dealing with an orientation issue, but if you desire and enjoy anal play full-stop, it’s just not about sexual orientation. Men of all orientations may or may not enjoy sexual anal stimulation, and the same goes for women of all stripes.

She then goes on to give some terrific anal sex/prostate 101 information:

Some men can reach orgasm through stimulation of the prostate only, and most men who engage the prostate through anal sex or prostate massage report that orgasms which involve prostate stimulation — alone, or when combined with other sexual activities — feel far more intense or stronger, and go on for longer, than orgasm reached through stimulation of the penis alone. It should also be noted that often, orgasm via only prostate stimulation will happen without an ejaculation. Obviously, gay men can have anal sex together with a penis, but straight and gay guys alike can engage in anal play or sex with fingers, oral sex or sex toys. Heterosexual guys who want their female partners to engage in anal intercourse with them can do so via dildos with or without a wearable harness for their female partner.

Why don’t all men know about this, given how intense it tends to be for men who do it, or why don’t all men engage in sex that directly stimulates the prostate?

For some — remembering that we all do differ in our preferences — it either feels too sensitive, or just doesn’t do much for them. While the female clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than any area of either the male of female genitals, some women find direct stimulation is just TOO direct for that to feel good, and others find that nerve endings or no, they prefer something else, or only like certain kinds of clitoral stimulation. The same can be true with men and the prostate gland. Some guys are just squicked out by the fact that feces passes through the rectum and anus. Others may feel that it’s a masculinity issue: that only women, “feminine” men, or a subservient partner has any kind of sex where something is put into their bodies, rather than being the one doing the entering or penetrating. (I probably don’t need to tell you that around here, we tend to think that’s a pretty disempowering way to think about sex and gender, no matter what someone is doing or who their partner is.)

I love this woman. If you want to know more about the prostate, check out the rest of the post on RH Reality Check and please, please read Scarleteen!