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Turned on to Obama

Friday, August 29th, 2008

obamaI’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been disappointed in past Democratic candidates: Bill Clinton, while overall wonderful, soured me with his stance on welfare reform. When Gore came along, I was disappointed with his pussy footing around issues that I embraced with my full heart. The same rang true with Kerry. I voted for the Democrats not because I embraced their ideals 100%, but because I wanted to keep what I felt were the real evils, the Republican candidates, out of office. I was expecting the same voting malaise with Obama.

Last night, I hadn’t planned to watch a minute of his Democratic National Convention speech. Rather, I’d thought about pecking away at a pile of preparatory schoolwork or enjoying a margarita with friends. As luck would have it, my sweetie texted me to inquire whether or not I’d like to head out to the pub and watch the speech on the big screen (we don’t have cable, after all). I reluctantly accepted.

We seated ourselves down the block with frosty pints of IPA and chatted over the hubbub of the local patrons. Come some time after 7 PST, the room fell hush as the jukebox was silenced in favor of the speech. Not one to speak up over the reverent silence, I found myself tuning in to the words that followed.

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At the pub, all heads turned.

How shall I describe it? To say that Obama captured my attention would be a misnomer; instead, I felt myself nigh moved to tears. This is an accomplishment for someone who had priorly pooh-poohed the speeches of Democratic presidential hopefuls.

Make no mistake: I know that Obama is not writing every last lick of his speeches, nor do I expect that he will follow through with all of the promises that he makes. I have lived too long, and have become too cynical to expect such a miracle. Rather, I was entranced by the sheer eloquence of the words, the sincerity in his voice, and the tentative hope that our nation can turn tail from a war in Iraq, the whisperings of defining birth control as “abortion”, the rising gas prices, the plummeting economy…

For the first time since Bill Clinton took the White House away from the Republicans, I want to believe. A single working mother raised my own mother, so I want to believe. As a child, my parents had to use food stamps for a time, so I want to believe. I couldn’t afford to finish my undergraduate schooling due to finances, so I want to believe. But beyond the working class issues (of course direly important), there are other key points to consider.

Obama speaks of a living wage for all of us… not just men. In a world where women want to make more per dollar than men, the only option is sex work. I support sex-workers with all of my heart, but understand that it is not a reality or possibility for all women. To quote Obama:

And now is the time to keep the promise of equal pay for an equal day’s work, because I want my daughters to have exactly the same opportunities as your sons.

And when it comes to a woman’s right to choose, Obama neatly puts the anti-choice folks in their place with a very Centrist and cordial rebuttal that also calls out the preponderance of pro-abstinence sex education in our state school systems:

We may not agree on abortion, but surely we can agree on reducing the number of unwanted pregnancies in this country.

And on the issue of GLBT rights:

I know there are differences on same-sex marriage, but surely we can agree that our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters deserve to visit the person they love in the hospital and to live lives free of discrimination.

I’m not going to say that it’s perfect, but what Obama is proposing is a start; and for the first time in my 30-year memory, I’ve actually been excited about a presidential hopeful. Let’s cross our hearts that the rest of the nation is ready to vote for this change.

The transcript of Obama’s speech can be found in full here.

Image courtesy of neublack.com.

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Questioning Transphobia

Thursday, August 28th, 2008

transIt’s always a treat when I stumble upon a gem of a blog like Questioning Transphobia. Lisa, a trans woman in her thirties, began transitioning in her teens; her thoughtfully-written blog dispels the belief that being a trans person means that one should feel that their gender is “inferior and something to be ashamed of.” She tackles transphobia on all fronts: within feminist communities, GLB communities, and society at large.

One of my favorite pieces is Transphobic Words and Deeds, which beautifully outlines what transphobia is and what it isn’t, and delivers plain talk about privilege (something that we all have to some extent or another) in the context of trans persons.

This piece not only made me think, but it was also cause for reflection on my own cisgendered privilege and how we can go about dismantling transphobia in our daily lives. As a whole, I came to two immediate remedies: listening to trans people and educating ourselves.

Listening to the voices of trans people and reading their words are as simple as paging through a blog or a book; and there are many wonderful books that I have pulled directly from the Babeland shelves:

Transgender Warriors by Leslie Feinberg
This book has remained one of my favorites through the years. I often refer to this work as a “my first trans book,” as it touches upon trans history and the multitude of trans identities, complemented by lush photographic illustration.

Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein combines autobiography with a thoughtful and often humorous deconstruction of what it means to be a man, woman, or “other” in US society. Her succinct cultural critique is handled in a warm, open manner that open minds without putting the reader on the defensive.

Sex Changes by Patrick Califia
Best known for his sizzling BDSM erotica, Califia is a heavy-hitter when it comes to politics and theory. Sex Changes is likely the first book on trans politics that I polished off while vigorously nodding my head in agreement. Never shy, Califia’s acid-tipped pen challenges past heavies (Krafft-Ebing, Harry Benjamin) and trans critics (Janice Raymond) while providing a superb historical and modern context for the trans experience. Not one to dumb down or sugar-coat his words, Califia delivers a brilliant tome that remains highly accessible and infinitely informative.

GenderQueer ed. Ricki Wilchins, Joan Nestle, Claire Howell
I’ve mentioned this anthology in the past, but it definitely deserves another blurb. Running the gamut of trans identities and experience, each essay is a delicious gem. Some pieces induce laughter, while others wrench tears; overall, it’s a cover-to-cover treasure that will open the mind to the multitude ways of being.

Whipping Girl by Julia Serano
As a smart friend of mine said “this book is going to change the way gender is taught in the classroom.” I couldn’t agree with her more. As a PhD researcher in the field of Evolutionary and Developmental Biology, Julia Serrano backs up theory with hard, indisputable fact. Whipping Girl is a dense book that spills over with revolutionary ideas and re-working of language. Possibly a lot to digest for a newcomer to these ideas, this is still a book that I hope will soon be standard reading for gender study the world over.

While this is merely the tip of the iceberg when it comes to educating ourselves, these texts are a splendid starting point. It’s time to abolish transphobia and replace it with knowledge, understanding, compassion, and love.

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Sugasm #144

Thursday, August 28th, 2008

Sugasm #144 & Note

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #145? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Bush Rides Again: Birth Control Defined as “Abortion”?
“The reason you tweak laws, redefining them or broadening their definitions, is to create the opportunity for a legal climate in which challenges may better succeed.”

First Time For Everything: A Polyamorous Relationship
“The only real trouble with being a triad came from the world around us.”

Sex Work And Compassion: Panty Tree
“I will never feel shame for being a sex worker.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Dreams
Needs. I has them.
On Feeling June Cleaverish
Saturday Night
Strippers and race
The Sunday Squirt
Under the Covers
Whenever we’re apart…

Sex Humor
Impertinent Question: Do You Name Your Genitals?

BDSM & Fetish
Anatomy of a Mindfuck
Brutal caning punishments for school girls’ filthy behaviour
Caning; La marca del deseo.
Claire Adams Does Some Wonderful Shibari Rigging In This Scene From The Whipped-Pussy Archives
Mz Berlin (Me!) & Madison Young In Bondage Slave Training
Ring Around the Collar
Two school girls in uniform spanked and caned over the bench.
Witch Stories
Whoring Hubby Spanked – F/m Spanking Pix

Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss-My Girlfriend’s Using Coke And Lying About It
Controlling the Urge to Ejaculate
How To Pick A Dildo
Pull My Hair, Slap Me Around – A How-To Guide To Rough Sex, Part 1

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Catalina loves Masculinity
It’s been a while – lots of stuff going on!
Satine Phoenix Says, “Save thousands on therapy, go to your reunion!!?”
Wax On; Wacks Off

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Fetish Model Toxxxy In Cotton Panties Smearing Jam All Over Herself
FunseXXXtoys Public Baptismal
The Jollie Review For Babeland
Sex on Spout
Sgt Major Makes Jade Marxxx Beg For Pain On Backdoor Bondage
Spanking interview with Thomas S. Roche

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bedroom Radio #21: Sinclair Sexsmith of Sugarbutch.net
Elaisted is to Corset Photography what Phelps is to Swimming!
Photo Essay

Sex & Politics
The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice
Friends of Jefferson, Spanking for Justice!

Note: While the Sugasm is back there are still a few bugs to sort out. The submission form isn’t working. For now please send your submission to me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom If you don’t see your post above it probably got lost during the server move. The featured pic will be returning soon. Thanks for your patience!