It takes a lot to impress our crew of seasoned sex educators here at Babeland, and I’ll tell you this much:  we’re impressed.  Incoqnito‘s line of gorgeous, wearable sensation toys is already flying off the shelves, and you can color me unsurprised, because this stuff is stunning.  Oh, and did I mention that it’s functional?  Not only can you wear some of these beautiful pieces out on the town as a necklace or bracelet, but then, when you pin your date up against the wall of the restaurant bathroom (or, um, wherever), you can convert the jewelry into nipple clamps, handcuffs, or sensation toys.  Truly covetable stuff.  Click here for an interview with Ti, designer of the ingenious Incoqnito line, and more information about the pieces themselves.  You don’t want to miss it.

We have a lot of fantastic events coming up at all of our locations – don’t miss them!

Babeland’s Kinky Crafting on HBO’s Real Sex
Tuesday, January 19, 07:00PM, Free
DIY sex toys! HBO re-launches Real Sex with a feature on Babeland’s Kinky Crafting workshop. Join us for a viewing party (we’ll also show other famous Real Sex clips of our Masturbate-a-thon and Cunnilingus workshop). Plus, make a few kinky crafts to take home as souvenirs. (SoHo)

G-Spot Delights
Sunday, January 24, 07:30PM, $35
Earth-shattering orgasms? Yes! Female ejaculation? It’s possible! Babeland Sex Educators guide you through the G-spot—where to find it, how to stimulate it, and what orgasmic things could happen when you do. (SoHo)

G-Spot 101
Sunday, January 24, 07:30PM, $35
Earth-shattering orgasms? Yes! Female ejaculation? It’s possible! Here’s your chance to find out the truth about the G-spot: what it is, where to find it, how to stimulate it, and what orgasmic things could happen when you do. (Seattle)

Sexy Moms Series: Talking to Your Teens About Sex
Tuesday, January 26, 07:00PM, Free
Judith Steinhart will address ways of talking to your teens about sex, even when they don’t seem to be listening. Judith is a Certified Sexuality Educator and Clinical Sexologist who has worked with and taught thousands of young people about sexuality, most recently at Columbia University. Get the info you need to help your teen develop healthy sexuality and boundaries. This event is jointly sponsored with Choices in Childbirth/The New Space for Women’s Health and Park Slope Parents. Complimentary refreshments will be served courtesy of Sip Wines and Joyce Bakery. (Brooklyn)

Concierge Night
Tuesday, January 26, 06:00PM, Free!
Next time someone asks you where to shop for a sexy getaway, or where to go for a bachelorette party, suggest Babeland. Let us give you a tour of our landmark sex shop and you’ll discover why we are such a fun and comfortable place for both men and women. Enjoy refreshments and goodie bags.(6-7pm) (Seattle)

Midori: The Art of Feminine Dominance, Level 1
Sunday, January 31, 07:30PM, $35
Elegance, power and confidence…learn an effective style of dominance that is authentic to you. Using her own special technique, Midori will help you to find your power femme archetype, allowing you to pursue erotic fulfillment and sensual power play. She will discuss psychology, politics, practical exercises, techniques, fashion and more. Something for everyone from the novice to the experienced.(7:30-9:30pm) (Seattle)

Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland, was recently quoted in a New York Magazine piece about ways New Yorkers can be happier (since we were ranked at the bottom of a happiness scale). Claire’s contribution has definitely gotten people’s attention with reactions varying from outright support to confusion to condemnation. We wanted to take a minute to explain her comment a bit more to see if we can’t correct the misunderstanding.

First, the quote: “Just say yes every time your partner wants to have sex. It’s only twenty minutes out of your day, and it makes you both feel better. If you’re not in a relationship, say yes to your own private date night at least three times a week.”

Now, some folks (here, and in the comments here) interpreted this as saying that you always, absolutely have to have sex every time your partner asks, even if you really don’t want to. I can understand how the quote would be interpreted that way, but I would also hope that anyone who knows Babeland would know that we would never advocate doing something that wasn’t consensual or that you didn’t want to do. Instead, this idea is more about challenging yourself to not wait until the exact perfect moment, but to get started and see what happens. I’ll let Rachel Venning, Babeland’s other co-founder explain how this works for her in detail:

“I realized when my kid was about one year old that because we were both tired, busy with the parenting, busy with work, waiting to feel sexy and turned on, for Jasper to be asleep, the stars were aligning for us to have sex about once every few months. That’s not the sex life I want for myself or with my partner. So I decided to lower my standards. Instead of waiting to really be in the mood, I decided to go for it whenever she offered. I found that by starting to fool around I quickly got in the mood.

I made that resolution four years ago and am still living it now.”

What are your thoughts? Have you tried this? Do you think it could work?