Dear Babeland friends,

I have a question for you.  Why is it that our Fellatio or How To Please Your Man classes sell out just about every month (yes we tend to have 1 a month) and our Cunnilingus or How To Please Your Woman classes only get a handful of attendees the 2 times we hold it a year?  We have a She Comes First class scheduled in Seattle for this Sunday, and it is looking to be a small turn out for the event while our Fellatio class at the end of the month is almost sold out already.

I talk about sex a lot.  Not only at work, but wherever I go, somehow I out myself as working at Babeland and get a flurry of sex questions.  This happens at the deli counter at the grocery store; the hair salon; waiters at restaurants; when dropping off my car to be fixed; on airplanes (always on airplanes); at parties; and recently I was in Paris and the table next to us hearing our American accents asked where we were from and after saying Seattle we chatted enough for me to say that I worked here and BAM – the table of guys had lots of sex questions for me.

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What do women think about sex? When are they happist? How do they communicate with their partners? These are all questions that Elle asked its readers in a large survey that they recently published. Now, bear in mind that these are readers of Elle who chose to respond, so it’s not the most scientific survey, but it’s still an interesting look at women’s pleasure.

Over 75,000 people answered the survey and overall, women are very happy with their sex lives.

Oral Sex
Women who climax more now than they did during the early days of their relationships receive oral sex at least half the time and say that they are good communicators in bed. Half of the respondents said they had oral sex the last time they were sexually intimate.

Trying new things
Half of the respondents also said they read articles or books to help improve their sex lives. I think that’s a great number and I wish it was more. Books can give us new ideas and explain things we’ve never understood before. I hope that some of those participants read some of my favorites like: Sex Toys 101, Sensuous Magic, and the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.
7 in 10 respondents also said that sex was better when they experimented. This included new positions and date nights. I bet if they’d asked, they would have found that these women were also trying sex toys. Maybe we can write to Elle and ask them to include questions about vibrators in their survey.

For more results, check out the full survey online.

When it comes to sexual satisfaction, countries where women and men are considered equal come out on top. A study by researchers at the University of Chicago surveyed an international group of people between 40 and 80 years old. The results? The United States isn’t first on the list, but we’re not at the bottom of the heap either. The top five are: Australia, Spain, Canada, Belgium, and the United States (64.6 % satisfied respodents vs. Australia’s 71.4%).

The countries with the least amount of sexually satisfied couples? Thailand, China, Indonesia, Taiwan, and Japan. According to the researchers, cultures that put more of an emphasis on procreation, tend to forget about women’s sexual pleasure leading to unsatisfied couples. What seems sad to me is that the country that invented the Rabbit Habbit (pictured) has the least amount of sexual satisfaction. Maybe they’re just measuring the wrong things?
Although this is an interesting study, I would love it if these researchers would look at some other things too. For instance:

1. How many people internationally masturbate?

2. How many people internationally talk to their partners about their sex lives?

3. What do the sexual satisfaction numbers look like for people under the age of 40? Are we “young’uns” any more satisfied?

What other questions do you think these researchers should be asking?

We aren’t the only ones talking about this survey. Find out what these bloggers have to say about it and let us know what you think:

JuliePatchouli

3 Quarks Daily

Life of Brian